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Let's say you knew a young man dating a young woman, a generic American WASP, not a foreigner with an unfamiliar culture, who said if she got married, she would refuse to take her husband's last name?Based on that, what kind of advice do you think you'd be likely to give him

I would say if there is love, don't worry about a name. Marry your sweetheart! (As long as they ain't from the NC mountains, Cause That might be a problem with the mountain folk and family, when they came home. AS a matter of fact it saves a lot of trouble in driver's license and Passport changes. Some facts but mostly just my [email protected]://shipslog-jack.blogspot.com/

I know I asked it, but I'll give my own opinion. If she were a foreigner, lots of countries don't have the same naming customs. But if she's an American, I'd be checking to make sure she isn't some kind of radical feminist. If she's got this idea that the big evil patriarchy is trying to suppress women by taking their last names away, who wants that? And if you hyphenate your last name, and your kids married people with hyphenated last names, your grandkids could end up with a name like Smith-Johns-Philip-Cortez. That's pretty crazy. With all the girls who are not into radical feminism out there, I don't know why a guy would want to marry a feminist who was radical enough not to want his name.My other concern would be that if she doesn't want to take his last name, she might not think marriage will last. Why change your name if you are going to change it back in a couple of years anyway? Having the same family name communicates We are family.Taking his name signifies commitment and taking on the identity of his wife, joining his clan, being his helpmeet, and lots of other good stuff like that. It's a cultural thing, more than a Biblical one. But not wanting to take his name could show some problems with accepting some Biblical principles about marriage. As a man, it felt good to me to know that my wife wanted to take my last name. It's better if your wife feels honored that you would want to give you her name. In my wife's country or her culture at least, the wife doesn't usually legally change her name, though in some context she is called by her husband's last name. (It's complicated. You call them by their first child's name after they have kids, and almost never say their name again in her tribe. My wife has an Uncle Addeline. I gave my first son mine and my daddy's name which worked out well for us.) But my wife wanted my name. We did take a while to get all the paperwork switched over because in the US because we lived overseas for so long and because of costs

What does the Bible have to say about it?

Not everyone sees it that way. I just recently read an article about a guy who took his wife's last name. It's definitely a bold, counter-cultural move. See what you think.http://www.cbeinternational.org/resources/article/how-i-submit-my-wifeFor a different perspective, here's the story (quick, easy read) of a guy who took his wife's name for non-religious reasons. Link, you might actually like this story because it shows how the system is biased against men who want to change their names. It might fit your narrative of how men are actually the ones who are oppressed.http://www.businessinsider.com/i-took-my-wifes-last-name-and-was-shocked-by-how-different-the-process-is-for-men-2015-12

Awwwww.

Some years after my Dad died, Mother married a good man. She took on his last name. Since she carried Dad's last name for almost 50 years, IMO, that was a mistake.They lived in a rural community in the house Mom and Dad lived in. Everyone knew Mom as Mrs. (Dad's last name). It was a little confusing.Mother later realized the mistake but choose not to change it, which I think was wise not to unscramble an egg.I would advise my wife in the event of my death, if she remarried not to change her name. She declares she would never remarry. I am only concerned about her happiness. If she would be happy, single ok if not ok Recorded Sermons @ www.pastorwiley.com

I started to say a lot but I will say only, 'I agree with your assessment here my friend Some facts but mostly just my [email protected]://shipslog-jack.blogspot.com/

That would be my first suggestion. My Second would be

What if she made and was worth more than you. Recorded Sermons @ www.pastorwiley.com