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Hey everyone...I could use your prayers in the days to come re: a work situation. Things have been off for a few months now, and I wasn't sure what was happening, but it has finally come out that my office-mate, the woman I share a space with, is angry with me and actually is pretty disgusted with me. She is good friends with another secretary, also, and they are both pretty much ignoring me at this point.For the last year that we have been sharing a space, I have been doing things that annoy/bother her, and she hasn't said a word. Well, it all came pouring out this week when I attempted to apologize for what I thought was a misunderstanding. But instead of her accepting my apology, she insists that I was sending a hidden message that it was her turn to do what the discussion about was about. I am not used to being called a liar to my face. Some of the things she said were very unpleasant. I didn't come prepared to defend myself, as I was seeking peace. Well, she is having none of it. She is barely speaking to me. It's very difficult to maintain a good attitude when the person sharing your space is actively ignoring you. The first few days I took it very personally & was in tears more than once. She thinks I am not working hard enough and my bosses are switching up some of my responsibilities, which was already in the works. I start that tomorrow. I also moved my computer facing in a different direction. My pastor shared in Bible Study on Wednesday that we can't cast away our confidence in trials, and I realized I was responding by my emotions instead of letting my spirit man be in charge. It has given me a new attitude, and I am trying to act as if nothing is wrong. I am gonna be who I am. I will try to change the things that annoy her if I can (like talking to myself or singing/whistling, which I am usually unaware of.) But I am who I am, and I'm not going to back down if there's nothing wrong with it. Please help me pray that God resolves this situation and gives me the grace and wisdom to behave myself wisely. I am certainly not perfect and can stand some improvement, and I will work on that, but I think God is going to have to deal with her heart for things to change More of Him...less of me.twitter.com/camiracle77www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=691241499&ref=name

Carolyn, I went through this with a co-worker for about a year before he thankfully left. My situation was very similar -- a TOTAL misunderstanding that was completely his fault. He got chewed out by our boss for something he was doing. I was trying to give him a heads-up about it, but he thought I knew about it and actively keeping him in the dark. I approached him the same way you did, looking to make amends without any conditions, and got the same result. He wouldn't have any of it and decided he would just completely actively ignore me. I can absolutely relate and empathize with what an awful, toxic workplace that type of behavior creates.

Prayers here Carolyn. We know God id good. We also know nothing falls our way that we cannot handle. BUT that doesn't make the 'time' move any faster to a conclusion.Our best with prayer to you lady Some facts but mostly just my [email protected]/

The bosses are aware. My bosses (I have two) and her boss have discussed what was going on and are monitoring things. They know I have gone to her in an attempt to clear the air. I have told my bosses in tears how difficult it has been the last three months, and that I felt I deserved to be treated in a professional manner, if nothing else. I think her boss talked to her Friday. We will see what this week brings.Thanks for your prayers and encouragement More of Him...less of me.twitter.com/camiracle77www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=691241499&ref=name

I like it when people I dislike ignore me. I don't have to be pleasant or do any small talk. Pressures off.Of course that's just me.Carolyn, I hope they fire that chump causing you problems

What I'd give to be like you*!In my situation - this is how I FELT the situation should be, but my body refused to cooperate. The situation gave me a ton of anxiety, which made me even more upset because I wasn't sure why it should be such a big deal since after awhile I definitely didn't care for my co-worker either.* in this very limited, narrow way

I don't 'need to tell you that women NEVER forgive (at least that's what Mrs. Hughes, my 5th grade teacher implied when she said she'd rather teach boys than girls). So, that being SCIENTIFICALLY the case, you have go to Home Depot and buy a ball peen hammer....Then, THE VERY NEXT TIME SHE OPENS HER MOUTH, conk her on the head with the hammer. Over time, this will create a Pavlovian response so that every time she gets ready to open her mouth to you, she will feel a hard thud on her head...all while you sit there looking busy (and, of course, smiling to yourself).So, there. I have solved this problem for you.SERIOUSLY, though, it is extremely difficult to win back someone who has allowed such bitterness and anger to fester. She may apologize. You may forgive her. But neither of you are apt to forget it.

I think I've mentioned this on here before, but if Lucifer had a son....

Re: Carolyn, unfortunately she has to be smacked....

Aaron, I'm worried about you, this is the second post that you have mentioned a ball peen hammer.