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I would appreciate some advice re: my work situation. This has been going on for about a month now. In case you missed the earlier post about it, here's a synopsis:My office mate at work is angry with me about several things and most everything I do annoys her, from venting about problems (which I stopped doing), humming, talking to myself, etc. This was exposed in the office when I was accused of leaving a simple task undone because it was her turn. Supposedly, a comment I made was code for that. She refused to accept my apology when I went to her, insisting her version was correct. There is much more to it, but she & her friend who works in a related office are pretty much ignoring me. We say good morning & good bye and sometimes she responds to comments I make, and sometimes she ignores me. I feel this is incredibly rude and unprofessional. Some days it doesn't bother me, some days it hurts my feelings, and some days, it just makes me mad.I usually say something as I leave the office to indicate where I'm going so someone will know if I'm needed. I decided to avoid being ignored, I would just stop saying anything as I leave. This doesn't feel good or right to me to do this, but I've reached the point where I need to protect myself from participating in what's going on.The bosses are involved but don't really want to get further into it, and I think it would only make things worse. I am not leaving my job and neither is she. We both have several years invested with this company.My question is...where is the balance between turning the other cheek and being a good Christian and allowing yourself to be treated badly More of Him...less of me.twitter.com/camiracle77www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=691241499&ref=name

I certainly have no solid advice, but I will pray that you find the right answer for your soul. Fortunately I have never been faced with the situation where the 'other dude' was in such close proximity. Yours is ONE of the toughies. Hang in there, there is an answer. (of course you know that!) All I can say is SMILE!Love from here lady Some facts but mostly just my [email protected]/

When you encounter it, just say, That reminds me, I have to buy a duck.They will forget their anger and spend the rest of the day wondering why you need a duck. And why what they were doing made you think of it

Not sure that will work, but I can see where I would use it........ Some facts but mostly just my [email protected]/

Thanks for the PMs and suggestions. I appreciate it. I'm so tired of thinking about this! Doing my best to walk in forgiveness daily, but it is a challenge. Not sure I'm brave enough to try the humor thing. She probably thinks I'm crazy already since I talk to myself. But hey, if you're not gonna talk to me...Things seem to go best if I just ask her something or try to act like nothing is wrong. But I don't take being ignored well, so I am going to try taking her out of the equation and not bother her unless I need to. Believing God's grace is sufficient, and He will continue to give me wisdom and grace...keep those suggestions & prayers coming More of Him...less of me.twitter.com/camiracle77www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=691241499&ref=name

cutting your toenails at work!It is very hard to come back from this faux pas.

Well, Aaron, at least you are consistent! More of Him...less of me.twitter.com/camiracle77www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=691241499&ref=name

Carolyn, in all seriousness...

My sister, you must take care to not allow HER problem to become yours. If she chooses that path, it is her great loss: She could have had a friend who is as steadfast, decent, and faithful as YOU. But she decided instead to play Mean Girl. Too bad, her loss.Methinks thou art too beholden to her approval or disapproval. If you can get YOUR job done, focus on that. I would suggest that when you communicate, just communicate by email--no frills, just the facts, ma'am. No, Your Friend above your name (you get the idea).This way, not only do you not have to undergo the trepidation of speaking with her, but you have a record (I would suggest some sort of Message Opened Receipt)--one she doesn't have see or know about.) If she starts playing with YOUR job, you have the evidence.It's OK for some folks to NOT be your friend--or even friendly. She is someone who may be a real trial for her significant other. Or she may be someone deserving of pity for all she has endured. But either way, SHE needs to be the one who fixes this up--you've done what you can do. She decided to opt for bitterness instead of betterment.And if she never comes around, then--here's a saying I really like--Learn to Accept the Apology You Never Received.

Carolyn,I'm just not a good person to ask about this - because I have no concept of this being a problem.If they ignore me - I can easily ignore them - and since it keeps me from having to make small talk with them - I get my work done faster. And - I don't have to feel bad about hurting their feelings - since they are the ones trying to inflict damage. To the Nature Boy - its a win-win.I pray you can smile as you quickly walk by this person - and never give it another thought.But if not - I pray this chump gets fired posthaste.NB